Self-Care is NOT Selfish.
Well, hi there. It's been a minute. Remember me? My name is Lynell Marie.
I am reaching out today as a little touchstone. A little tap tap on your heart.
I want to remind you of just how magical you are.
Maybe like you, i am a lot of things. I have done a lot of things. I have even learned a few. I realize this world is in a delicate and weird place right now, where it doesn’t matter what you have experienced, how hard you have worked, and how much information you carry. How much knowledge you came to this planet with. How much care you take of your own human flesh.
So rather than tell you about my story, I would love to tell you about my ideas. I want to weave a brilliantly jeweled tapestry with my golden thread, as I realize that might be all we share in common for right now. Ideas. Ideals. Crystals hanging from a burgeoning fig tree. Magic. And maybe, if we focus on those, rather than what they are, we can create some of these things together. We can bridge that gap. The one that is tearing apart our fabric and logos, our compassion and understanding for that which we do not understand.
You see, no matter who we are, we need to care for our inner and outer self. I believe they/we are connected, both this inner world we hold within, and the outer life... and the outer life can only reflect the inner space we are in. We run into big trouble if we allow the outer world to enter our inner life, and forget why we are here... For if we ignore the whispers of imbalance happening within, the riffs between what we feel and what we say/do, the whispers our body sends us, the subtle messages, can get louder and ultimately cause massive symptoms, as the physical body is trying so hard to get its message to us. When we are not caring for ourselves as a priority, we can grow mean, resentful, and unkind.
We lash out as we speak THRU our brokenness, rather than speaking TO the things that cause our brokenness. Even if we don’t know what caused it, speaking to it allows us to connect gently with others as we share our vulnerable, real feelings and self. Otherwise, this can distort our own genuine voice... wouldn't it just be so much better to shine our own light?
Self reflection can help a lot, bringing self-care and growing self love. Self care -NOT as an “extra” thing to do, but THE thing to do. The medicine we need, to occupy these skin-suits we find our spirits dwelling in. And surrounding ourselves with others who can remind us when we aren’t doing this thing for ourselves. They can see clearly what is happening, unlike us in the moment, and help gently get us back on track. Hopefully theirs are voices we can hear, even when we are out of balance! If we are serving others without feeding and caring for our own selves, it all backfires, and we wind up giving of our own wellsprings, even through clenched teeth and resentment. When we give from our saucer instead, we can move organically through joy and shared love because we have chosen to love ourselves. Simply said, SHINE.
So, they say we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. What does that look like, when you realize most everyone around you subscribes to self sacrifice and self loathing, instead of proactive care? The culture becomes that. You get to choose what you want to grow into. WHO you want to be. What, exactly, you are aligned with. Don't wait. The time is now, my friend!
This is what can happen, when someone wants to leave a job or relationship, and make positive life changes happen. Those who are “left behind” can tend to pass judgement, make nasty comments and diminish that one who is trying to get out. And in the process, poison the well for all.
The moral is, don’t be a crab. On all levels...be the one who lifts another!
As always, please reach out if I can do anything at all to help your journey. Grateful for you in my life, glad for the giggles, hugs, wishes, and soul friendships as we navigate these waters we are currently swimming in.
Sending you Lots of Love!
Sister, Friend, Daughter, Mama, Auntie,
Author, Guide, and Wellness Scientist
Please reach out if you are interested in New Moon Circle gatherings - or - if you'd like to host a wellness class before the holidays are officially upon us.
I will be sharing some big news coming up soon, and I would love to include you in the invitations!